Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg lost her husband Dave Goldberg last month in a tragic treadmill accident. Goldberg sustained ‘severe head trauma and hemorrhaging’, and died at a medical center in Nuevo Vallarta in Mexico. Sandberg then took to Facebook to confirm this news, and called Goldberg her rock in an emotional teary goodbye post. A month later, Sandberg has written another intensely emotional open letter, explaining her grief and the void that now constantly exists since her tragic loss. Also Read - Facebook is thinking about putting restrictions on who can live stream on the platformAlso Read - Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg slammed by international lawmakers for not showing up at hearing
Sandberg’s open letter marks the end of a month of mourning for her husband, which is called Sheloshim in Judaism. She has penned her grief and her emotional experience in this latest Facebook post, in the hope that someone could find meaning in their times of grief. The letter is extremely moving, as it talks about her personal state of complete daze. Also Read - UK Parliament may soon release documents about Facebook’s knowledge of Russian meddling on the platform: Report
“A childhood friend of mine who is now a rabbi recently told me that the most powerful one-line prayer he has ever read is: Let me not die while I am still alive. I would have never understood that prayer before losing Dave. Now I do,” she wrote. Her words were hard hitting and extremely insightful to what someone goes through when they come face to face with a sudden tragic loss.
“Real empathy is sometimes not insisting that it will be okay but acknowledging that it is not. When people say to me, You and your children will find happiness again, my heart tells me, Yes, I believe that, but I know I will never feel pure joy again. Those who have said, You will find a new normal, but it will never be as good comfort me more because they know and speak the truth. Even a simple How are you? almost always asked with the best of intentions is better replaced with How are you today? When I am asked How are you? I stop myself from shouting, My husband died a month ago, how do you think I am? When I hear How are you today? I realize the person knows that the best I can do right now is to get through each day,” she said.
This extremely moving open letter is a must read for all those who have experienced loss in some or the other form. And for those lucky few who haven’t, this one’s a reminder that everything is ephemeral.